Frequently Asked Questions About Family Mediation in Kent
What is family mediation?
Family mediation is a confidential and voluntary process in which a trained, impartial mediator helps separating couples or family members work through issues together. Unlike a solicitor or a judge, a mediator does not take sides or make decisions. Instead, they help you have structured, productive conversations and work toward agreements that work for everyone involved, particularly any children.
Do I need a MIAM before going to court?
What issues can mediation help with?
Mediation can help with child arrangements (where children live, contact and parenting plans), division of finances, property and assets, practical arrangements following separation, and ongoing co-parenting discussions.
What is a MIAM and do I need one?
A MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) is a confidential individual meeting with a mediator. In England and Wales, attending a MIAM is a often a legal requirement before applying to court for most orders relating to children or finances. Even where court proceedings are not planned, a MIAM is a useful first step. It is low-commitment, confidential and gives you the information you need to make an informed decision.
What if my ex won't agree to mediation?
Mediation is voluntary, so both parties need to be willing to participate for joint sessions to take place. However, you can still attend a MIAM on your own. If the other party declines, you will receive a signed MIAM certificate which allows you to make a court application if necessary.
Is mediation legally binding?
Mediation produces a Memorandum of Understanding (for financial matters) or a Parenting Plan (for child arrangements). These documents are not automatically legally binding, but they can be made so. For financial agreements, a solicitor can draft a Consent Order which is then approved by the court.
What if we cannot reach an agreement in mediation?
If you are unable to reach an agreement, your mediator will provide a signed MIAM certificate enabling a court application if you wish to proceed. Your mediator will be honest with you about whether mediation is suitable for your situation from the outset.
Is mediation suitable if there has been domestic abuse?
The safety and wellbeing of all parties is the primary concern. If there has been domestic abuse, your mediator will carefully assess whether mediation is appropriate and safe. Drawing on my training as a Kent Domestic Abuse Champion and my background in trauma-informed practice, this will be assessed carefully and safely. In some situationas mediation may not be appropriate and your mediator will support you in understanding your other options.
How much does mediation cost in Kent?
Mediation is significantly less expensive than court proceeding which often are significantly more costly and can take much longer. Mediation can help to give you and your family far more control over the outcome and help to save on costs. MIAM fees are £120 per person and Mediation Session fees are £180 per person.
Do I need a solicitor if I use mediation?
You do not need a solicitor to use mediation, though it is helpful to have independent legal advice alongside the process. A solicitor can help you understand your legal rights and, where an agreement is reached, can draft a Consent Order to make financial agreements legally binding.
How long does mediation take?
A MIAM typically takes around 45–60 minutes. Joint mediation sessions usually last 90 minutes.
Where do sessions take place?
A New Chapter Mediation offers sessions in person in Whitstable, Kent, online via video call, or via shuttle mediation where parties remain in separate spaces. Please get in touch to discuss what would work best for your situation.
